Making Love ~ Sacred Union
Many of my conversations with women over the last few months, whether with friends or in a private session, have been about sex, intimacy and about realigning our ideas and expectations of what it means to Make Love.
Love making is a mysterious discovery and if we allow it to be, it can be such a potent expression, tool and journey of healing. Making love is one of the greatest ways to know God, to go beyond our feeling of separateness and taste the reality of Divine Union.
But sadly our ingrained patriarchal mechanisms, means that we hunt for pleasure; which indicates a total misunderstanding of the sacred magic of love shared between 2 united beings. We have been trained to be goal orientated and often left unsatisfied when no particular climax is reached. But are these climaxes REALLY satisfying? Are we left melting in the love that we have created together? Or is there more of a feeling of release or achievement?
Vulnerability, honesty and devotion play big roles in true Love Making, which means sex can in fact be the deepest and most profound act of surrender that we may experience…a surrender that emanates great ripples through our whole life, psyche, well being and soul. Once we give up the goal, a whole new level of intimacy awaits us…
Here, as we meet another human being in a raw vulnerability and intimacy that simply cannot be put into words; we begin to allow Love to touch us so deeply in our most tender places. Places deep in our bodies, in our psyche, that we didn’t even know existed. We begin to taste the longing deep within our beings to merge beyond the pain of separation. And in our surrender, and as we begin to let go of our expectations of ecstasy; suddenly we are met with tears from the past or a crippling fear or trauma. It is not surprising that our deepest, darkest wounds can easily surface as those places where Love has not yet reached, begin to open in our awareness…
We may have heard that for many women, a great deal of past trauma and pain lies dormant in our yoni’s and wombs only to be revealed in various ways through intimacy.
These moments can often be misunderstood and a tendency to label the experience as ‘bad’ or ‘unsatisfactory’ is common, wherein fact this excavation is a sign of a deep and intimate experience. What is needed here for all levels of healing to be welcomed with just as much Love, is again a dropping of the preference to only experience pleasure. A relaxation of the mind wanting a particular state. An acceptance of the beauty of pain as equal to pleasure. Tears equal to screaming joy. As our mind begins to let the preference go, our heart and body can be open to welcome what is true for us in that moment. A chance for us to Love even deeper. Deeper into our broken selves. An opportunity for true and profound healing to take place, and to taste the reality of Sacred Union. To allow a deeper penetration of Love that can change humanity from the inside out.